Please don’t ever think abusive people are heartless.  They are not.  I have heard their hearts breaking and their pain is real.  Even more, perhaps, than the average person whose partner walks out.  The abusive person works so hard to gain control over their partner that they are shattered beyond belief when she or he gets away despite everything they have done to ensure that won’t happen. My heart bleeds for them sometimes.  They swear they never hit their partner, never laid a hand on them, and I believe that in some cases. What they don’t understand is you don’t have to actually hit someone to be an abuser.  There…