Comments on: Good Intentions Are Not Enough. http://www.wordsbykim.com/blog/36/good-intentions-are-not-enough/ Life through the eyes of a Christian psychologist. Sun, 20 May 2012 00:56:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.11 by: Kim http://www.wordsbykim.com/blog/36/good-intentions-are-not-enough/#comment-209 Fri, 12 Jan 2007 12:51:04 +0000 http://www.wordsbykim.com/blog/36/good-intentions-are-not-enough/#comment-209 Hi Jess, Thank you for sharing your experiences and I am so glad you got the help you needed. I am also very glad to hear my entry made you feel better. That is the whole reason I am writing this blog - so people can see they are not alone. I just wish I had known all those years ago that infants don't think - they need - they need us whether they act like they do or not. I hope to learn more of your story as time goes by. You sound like someone I would like if I met you :) Cheers - Kim Hi Jess,

Thank you for sharing your experiences and I am so glad you got the help you needed. I am also very glad to hear my entry made you feel better. That is the whole reason I am writing this blog - so people can see they are not alone. I just wish I had known all those years ago that infants don’t think - they need - they need us whether they act like they do or not.

I hope to learn more of your story as time goes by. You sound like someone I would like if I met you :)

Cheers - Kim

]]> by: jess82 http://www.wordsbykim.com/blog/36/good-intentions-are-not-enough/#comment-208 Fri, 12 Jan 2007 10:16:00 +0000 http://www.wordsbykim.com/blog/36/good-intentions-are-not-enough/#comment-208 Hi Kim, I just read your posts about your son and I feel relieved - that someone else felt like that, too. I thought it must have been only me, and I have carried much guilt about that for 3.5 years. I am sure many women have felt the same way but have never had the chance to speak up - good on you. I never hurt my daughter but I did think of it once, and then cried because how could I do that to someone I loved so much? Hormones! Anyway I felt like she rejected me through similar issues - breastfeeding, and an extremely fast medically induced birth that left me with a post-partum infection. I won't go into huge amounts of detail on all of the circumstances as it would take page upon page... My friend hasn't ever had a close relationship with her mother and she claims she hated her from the day she was born. In my sick, hormonal and tired state this played on my mind - I was convinced my daughter hated me, and this was payback somehow for deciding to go ahead with my pregnancy(I am a single mum). This thought was pretty devastating - I loved her so much! Then, a couple of weeks after we came home from hospital, she opened up her eyes and she just stared at me and smiled - and I KNEW that she loved me. Sounds corny, I know - but that's how it was! I decided at this point to go to see my doctor and luckily he was lovely about it - he said I had post natal depression, and with time (and some anti-depressants for a few months) and some long chats between me and him things got better. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences - it made me feel so much better! Cheers, Jess Hi Kim,
I just read your posts about your son and I feel relieved - that someone else felt like that, too. I thought it must have been only me, and I have carried much guilt about that for 3.5 years. I am sure many women have felt the same way but have never had the chance to speak up - good on you. I never hurt my daughter but I did think of it once, and then cried because how could I do that to someone I loved so much? Hormones! Anyway I felt like she rejected me through similar issues - breastfeeding, and an extremely fast medically induced birth that left me with a post-partum infection. I won’t go into huge amounts of detail on all of the circumstances as it would take page upon page…
My friend hasn’t ever had a close relationship with her mother and she claims she hated her from the day she was born. In my sick, hormonal and tired state this played on my mind - I was convinced my daughter hated me, and this was payback somehow for deciding to go ahead with my pregnancy(I am a single mum). This thought was pretty devastating - I loved her so much! Then, a couple of weeks after we came home from hospital, she opened up her eyes and she just stared at me and smiled - and I KNEW that she loved me. Sounds corny, I know - but that’s how it was! I decided at this point to go to see my doctor and luckily he was lovely about it - he said I had post natal depression, and with time (and some anti-depressants for a few months) and some long chats between me and him things got better. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences - it made me feel so much better!

Cheers,
Jess

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